All people have a Gender Identity, to be human is to be in some way gendered, either by oneself or by others – or by a combination of both

 

A Gender Identity has three independent dimensions:

 

1) Sex

2) Gender Spirit

3) Sex Presentation

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A Sex is whether you are Male or Female. Or Intersex. This is fixed. Can it be changed? That is debatable and I don't know where I stand on that.

 

A Gender Spirit is what makes a person Feminine or Masculine. A Masculine person has a Masculine Gender Spirit, and a Feminine person has a Feminine Gender Spirit. A person’s Gender Spirit is fixed; one cannot change it. It is also possible to have a non-binary Gender Spirit.

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A Sex Presentation is what social gender role you adopt – “Man” or “Woman”. Men have masculine pronouns and dress in Manly clothes, and Women have feminine pronouns and dress in Womanly clothes.

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"Man" and "Women" are social roles. And these are to some extent based on reproductive roles. As traditionally Men have been Male and Women Female. That's how it works. That's why those social roles are as they are.

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Each of these three factors are independent and distinct from each other.

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Not all Masculine people are Male, and not all Male people are Masculine. Likewise, not all Feminine people are Female, and not all Female people are Feminine. But most people in today’s world fail to realize this.

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I’m not going to go through all the combinations here, and I go into them in one of my videos.

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I personally identify as:

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Sex = Male – I am a male human being

Gender Spirit = Feminine

Sex Presentation = Man. I am a he/him

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I call myself a "Male Invert" - a Feminine Gender Spirited Male who presents as a Man. A "Female Invert" would be a Masculine Gender Spirited Female who presents as a Woman.

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"Male Invert" is my Gender Identity although I believe I have always been one, even when I did not know it.

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As a Male Invert I have a lot in common with Transwomen, except I don’t present as a Woman, I present as a Man. Presenting as a Woman is an option, but doing that is not for me. That’s not me and it does not logically follow that a Feminine gender-spirited male has to be a Woman. We’re all different.

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But here's the issue: Are "Women Only" spaces (and groups) actually "Female Only" spaces, or can Males who present as Women also use them? This has to be worked out and is a huge source of conflict. Personally it doesn't affect me and I feel for both sides. I am a conflicted liberal, pulled each way and ultimately it is a women's issue. As a Male (and a person classed by society as unproblematically a Man) I don't mind Transmen (which not all people class as Men) going into Men-only groups but I'm not so comfortable with them using the Men's changing rooms and toilets but I cannot speak for all Men. This whole mess needs sorting. Through compromise and dialog. We need a new gender regime that is fair on all. And I have no idea what that might look like.

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I have written a book in which I explain my journey, although my beliefs have shifted a bit since I wrote that. I have grown to be more chilled towards those who choose different paths to me. I have become more tolerant, although I don't think I was ever intolerant. Perhaps I have become more accepting? That sounds about right to me.

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What is life if not a big process of self-improvement?

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We all grow and learn over time, that's what being human is about

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I used to be very confused about sex and gender to say the least, but I eventually figured it all out to my satisfaction. This is what I came up with.

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But the gender ideology I came up with provided me with clarity and I think it is of value

 

I am now happy with myself and wish to share what I came up with. I welcome all constructive criticism – ideas evolve and grow through a thesis being challenged by an anti-thesis, and this interaction creates a new idea, a synthesis.

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We should all teach each other and learn together and figure out the cosmos as a team!

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Maybe you disagree with me. That’s not problem for me and I welcome your feedback and ideas.

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I always treat those who choose different paths to me with respect and compassion and I accept how people choose to define themselves.

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We all have to figure how to live together in harmony. Compromise is I believe a very feminine quality.

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Thanks for reading!

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And please check out my videos. I think my videos are better than my book.